Marysa Bonnema lives in Montreal, Quebec and has graduated from School of Ministry’s Heart and Advance Modules. She...
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3 NIV)
In the past I would often meditate on Peter 3:3 while contemplating on how a gentle and quiet spirit could be activated in my own life. This particular verse has been one that I have held close to my heart since a young age. What I always admired was the section that states, “Which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I would ponder on those words and desire nothing more than to be a delight to our Father. Recently, I have come across this verse again and with new eyes Holy Spirit began to change my perspective.
Prior to discovering my true identity as a beloved daughter, I would strive for approval from man and even God as well. I would do things in order to appear as “good”, because I had believed that in order to be loved I must need to be seen. This did not go very well, since when I felt unnoticed and unseen I would believe that I was unloved. However, once Holy Spirit began to reveal to me the importance of cultivating an intimate lifestyle with the Father, I realized how I truly am seen by Him. In knowing that you are seen, loved, and approved, approaching God is no longer perceived as a difficult task which requires much effort to catch even a glimpse of His attention. The truth is, we were loved from the moment we were formed in our mother’s womb. In the end, it is not about us and what we can do, it is merely His grace that is sufficient for you and I. He sees you and I as Holy and blameless because love is who He is.
With that being said, when we know our identity as a child, who is dearly loved, we can be at rest in our spirit, and through rest a gentle and quiet spirit is cultivated. It is in the secret place that our hearts are awakened to discover that the same spirit who dwelled in Christ dwells in you and I as well. Therefore, boldly we can approach His throne trusting that we are already of great worth in God’s sight. This verse, I believe, suggests the importance of an honest heart. Are what we speaking with our words aligned with what our hearts are conveying to our Father?
Not to say that God does not hear our words, however, He is interested in our hearts and hears the thoughts we ponder on in our hearts. For example, Mary mother of Jesus was said to be a woman who “treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart.” (Luke 2:19 NIV) If God is looking to our hearts while man is solely looking on the outside, the question to ask is: Are we caring for our hearts or are we putting our efforts into what is only temporary?
In caring for our hearts we are choosing to delight ourselves in Him. Our hearts are where all things are said to flow from (Proverbs 4:23), and if we care for our heart, we will live a life of unfading beauty producing in ourselves a gentle and quiet spirit.
This archived article was written by Marysa Bonnema for release in Jul, 2013. Circumstances and situations may have changed regarding the author, locations and ministries. This content may therefore be outdated or misinformed.
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